Heathy long term relationships do not develop properly when two people skip very important steps in relationship building, especially during the dating period. By doing these simple steps in order, you can prevent future realtionship breakdowns.
Of coarse, the chemistry between two people will have a significant impact on wether two people are made for each other. But these tips can give your relationship a fighting chance.
How a relationship should develop:
1. Eye to Body
This is when you see that special someone from a distance. Depending on what you see will determine if you move on to the next step.
2. Eye to Eye
When two people make eye to eye contact, our brains evaluate the potential for somebody to become a mate. The more it likes what it sees the chance increases that a person gaze longer at the other persons face.
3. Mouth to Ear
This is the point when two people begin a casual converstation. This is an important stage because you will evaluate the other person and find if you have anything in common with them. This is a good time to evaluate the chemistry between you and the other person.
If you liked what you seen in stage 2, but ignore stage 3, then the relationship as very little chance at success.
4. Hand in Hand
This is the very first step at bodily contact. Holding hands may seem old fashioned to some, but most females want this kind of affection. In this same category is Arm around Shoulder. Proceed with caution to see which one is right for you and your potential mate.
5. Mouth to cheek
To avoid the over-welming feeling of moving too fast. I advise that you move as slowely as possible. A simple kiss on the cheek can test how that other person feels about the idea. The best way to move into this area of a relationship is to be open and ask what the other person thinks about it.
6. Mouth to Mouth
This step is a pretty big step. Sometimes the timing is just right, but be careful not to do it too soon. If you missed a step or two, you may need to backtrack. If you don’t do things in order you might freak out your date. Don’t slobber all over your date. Well at least the first time around anyways.
7. Tongue to Tongue
This is not a neccasary step. You may want to ask if your companion is comfortable with this.
8. Hand to Body
This step usually happens when two people are caught up in the act of kissing. Be careful you may turn hot into cold if you make the other person uncomfortable. However it is possible to turn hot into hotter also.
I don’t advise taking the relationship further unless two people have spent a lot of time together and have decided that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. The reason is to really make a relationship solid is to “only do these steps with the right person.” If you do these steps with every casual person then you are likely to have your senses dulled and will not know the difference whent he right one comes along.
9. You know
I don’t need to explan what this is!
Now the most important step of all:
Once you have found that special person and have married, repeat steps 1-9 at least once a day (when possible). This will keep your relationship as fresh as the first day you met. Don’t skip any steps.
If a husband comes home from work, skips all the steps then wants step number nine. The result could be the wife feeling used and unappreciated. That is why it is important to repeat all the steps!
I hope this article helps you build a strong and healthy relationship.